Big Love is dangerous. It risks our individuality to love someone so deeply that it changes us. Falling from a big love is one of the most painful experiences I know of. But if we’re afraid to get back up and back into the arena, then we are, as you say, making a choice. The choice to be single is appropriate when we need to recover from a difficult breakup. And perhaps, it’s a personal choice that any of us can make, to stay single. It’s not for me. I’m seeking the big love. I’m in a big love at the moment and I’m ready to risk even more. When we’re ready for the big love we become more able to find it and lean into it. Go for love. Go for big love. Or don’t. Your choice.